Opt-Out Moms and Special Needs Kids

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3 Responses

  1. anon reader says:

    In the two examples you gave (polio and ADHD kid), our financial policies have nothing to do with how opt-out moms or specialness of the kids. In the vaccine cases, we’ve made a decision not to cover certain losses to make vaccines cheaper and more accessible. Paying for caregiving at a tax attorney rate is simply the expense that we as a society cannot afford. As to the ADHD kid — the issue is not what the society wants to pay for, but what the kid’s father wants to pay for. The father thinks that a kid can be taken care of by lower-paid employees and is not willing to shell out the equivalent of his ex wife’s foregone earnings for the difference. Maybe he is right. Maybe the marginal improvement in the kid’s life is not big enough to justify that expense, and the mom just wants to milk her ex to the max. We don’t know. The point is, I am failing to see how these cases are unique to special-needs kids, as opposed to any other case of undercompensated losses from immunizations or former spouses inflating their losses (or reducing their earning capacity) to get a larger portion of family money.

  2. Brett Bellmore says:

    “while others have changed from more or less egalitarian partnerships to more traditional arrangements, with moms more responsible for the hearth and dads more responsible for the bank account.”

    Who could have seen that coming? Mom leaves a high paying job to take care of the kids, and dad ends up being the one who earns the money. Why, you would almost suspect that leaving a high paying job effected your income, or something!

    Seriously, though, why relate ending up in a more traditional marriage as though it were a surprising development, rather than just being another way of describing what the woman has chosen?

  3. Sykes Five says:

    Because in many cases the husband and wife underestimated the extent to which having the wife leave the workforce and focus on managing the household and raising the kids, even in a “professional” or high-productivity way, would turn their egalitarian partnership into the “traditional marriage” they thought they did not have. It was subjectively surprising even if wise observers like Brett Bellmore could have seen it coming.